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All In #30BrighterDays

    My default setting too often tips toward the “no” side when it comes to spontaneity and adventure. Thankfully, I’ve learned to push through my initial tendency toward resistance, and move the needle closer to yes more often and more enthusiastically. Once in a while, and among certain individuals, I’m unequivocally one thousand percent on board, all in, YES from the get-go. This past weekend? I was ALL IN. I think it shows. This post is part of #30BrighterDays; a thing I made up to brighten each day of November

    They still play #30BrighterDays

      A couple years ago my kids let me know that “play dates” would now be called “hang outs.” They still planned to have friends over, yes, but the kids would now hang, not play. I braced myself for the end of play, and took small comfort that at least no one would likely prevent me from serving popcorn or brownies to our monosyllabic non-blinking blue-lit basement dweller guests. Around this same time we underwent the task of changing the former basement playroom into more of a teen lair, complete with a drum set (my younger… Read More »They still play #30BrighterDays

      Show Your Work #30BrighterDays

        College Graduation: I stood grinning in cap and gown imagining a tower of all the papers written, all the blue books filled, and all the notes taken those four years. It filled me with pride and satisfaction. I didn’t sit in judgement over the content of what I’d written or how I’d performed, but rather I stood in awe at the massive amount of work completed. Best. Feeling. Ever. I love accomplishing. I especially love having accomplished. Then I speed along and forget. Sound familiar? Some writers hate reading their old work, some speakers wince… Read More »Show Your Work #30BrighterDays

        Low Power Mode #30BrighterDays

          When the iPhone battery loses most of its charge, you get a prompt to switch to “low power mode.” Low power mode costs you brightness and speed, but it saves the phone from dying. What great advice for humans; downshift to safeguard our energy before crashing. Since humans don’t come with convenient displays and toggle-switches, it isn’t always easy to identify when we need to conserve our power. Certain signals might catch our attention in the short term (hunger, exhaustion, bad mood, impatience), but symptoms of a longer-term deficit can prove harder to detect (general depression… Read More »Low Power Mode #30BrighterDays

          Fall Back #30BrighterDays

            Fall back. Fall back into leaf piles. Fall back into leaf-jumpers were adorable in theory, but leaf piles amassed by four capable raking bodies is infinitely better in practice. Fall back into the satisfaction of city leaf collectors taking all the leaf piles away. Fall back into Stranger Things. Fall back into a boy in your bed, afraid of Stranger Things, who keeps wanting to watch Stranger Things. Fall back into chili and dal and a full menu of child-repellent stews. Fall back into you may help yourself to a bowl of cereal instead. No… Read More »Fall Back #30BrighterDays

            Show up, then try a new another route. ZING! #30BrighterDays

              When I woke up I thought I might choose an “off” exercise day today. By the time my coffee kicked in and both boys left for school, I felt energized and laced up my running shoes. I typically run different variations of the same route, and as I neared my usual turn-around point, I decided to keep going and enjoy a detour onto the rustic trail that goes through the park (instead of the paved bike path). I had to watch my footing given all the leaves, roots, and rocks. Ducking under low brush, side-stepping… Read More »Show up, then try a new another route. ZING! #30BrighterDays

              Enduring Wisdom From Annoying George #30BrighterDays

                I can’t recall now why I found George so very annoying. The word “pontificating” comes to mind; maybe he was a mansplainer, an interrupter or condescending.  I’m quite certain he was also kind and insightful. Who knows, maybe the problem had more to do with my own impatience and lack of generosity. Or maybe I’m being too generous now, and he was legitimately a top-notch butthead. I really don’t remember. In fact, I recall relatively few people from my grad school years at all because my focus rested almost entirely on this face… But I do… Read More »Enduring Wisdom From Annoying George #30BrighterDays

                Community Brighteners #30BrighterDays

                  Good news surrounds us, with many hard-working people collaborating to serve others in order to create that good news. This weekend I took notice of community-brighteners. My friend Takeyla kicked off her brand new book club geared toward 4th-7th grade Black Boys, We Read Too. Please “like” her page on Facebook so her posts can catch as many eyeballs as possible. Look forward to her writing workshops for Women of Color as well, aptly named We Write Too. Benton liked the idea of getting her son together with other boys to explore different books, to read together… Read More »Community Brighteners #30BrighterDays

                  Brighten your days! They are numbered!! #30BrighterDays

                    That title probably emits less brightness, more infinite darkness. Stay with me! I heard scientist and scholar Pelin Kesebir speak on Seeing and Loving Life for What It Is. Pelin studies the psychology of happiness, and her Phd research focused on death.  In her lecture, she shared that the biggest obstacle to happiness is our attempt to control that which is beyond our control, plus our resistance to reality vs. how we wish things to be. Ultimately, Pelin asserted that on a fundamental level our denial of reality stems from our fear and denial of… Read More »Brighten your days! They are numbered!! #30BrighterDays

                    Little Brighteners #30BrighterDays

                      My friend Erin runs a Montessori preschool. They teach the toddlers to set a table at lunchtime with plates, silverware, and cloth napkins. Erin models this tendency of taking a little more care with the everyday. I thought of her yesterday when I had a visitor, so I arranged this tray. Simple, but a little brighter than your average hummus tub (p.s. I think Hummus Tub would be a great wrestling name).   food styled and shot by an award-winning professional Little ways I brighten a day: Taking a little more care with what I… Read More »Little Brighteners #30BrighterDays