Finally…A Marinka Post You Probably Missed

And…now…the grand finale of my bloggy bash . Marinka of Motherhood in NYC is insanely popular because she is insanely funny. She mystifies me with her ability to articulate something I know in my soul, yet wasn’t ever really aware of. For example:

Dreamy

Here’s the thing: Unless you’re Martin Luther King, Jr., no one cares about your dream. And more than being apathetic, they actively hope and pray that you don’t tell them about your dream. It’s not that they don’t love you (although keep telling them your dreams and watch this factor come into play), it’s that other people’s dreams are really, really boring. And they don’t make sense. And they are boring.

Yesterday my son started telling me his dream that seemed to involve a tough guy or beheadings and I was making my “I’m listening” face, which incidentally is identical to my “I’m trying to see the tips of my eyelashes” face, but inside I was thinking, “Does this dream have an end? Is he still talking? My God, how many words do seven year olds know, anyway? His mouth is still moving. He’s chewing, right? Maybe he’s just chewing. But there is also sound. Stop. Talking. Stop. SHUT UP ALREADY.” And this is my child, who I love and who is precious to me. So you can imagine what it’s like if a semi-precious co-worker starts regaling me with stories of dream super powers.

And yet, I’ve been there. I’ve had a dream that was so exciting, intricate and real that I absolutely had to share it with someone. More than one someone. And I’ve tried various tricks to keep the person interested. And now, for no extra charge, I will share them with you.

Marinka’s Top Ten Tips for Telling a Victim About Your Dream

1. Pick your target carefully. I cannot stress this enough. Generally speaking, there are only two types of people who do not mind listening to dreams: Analysts (Freudian, preferably) and prostitutes. And sometimes the latter have standards, so I can’t make any guarantees. If you are on a budget, and neither of those two is an option, try to make sure that your dream-recipient falls into one of the following categories: asleep/comatose, does not speak English, listening to an Ipod with eyes closed. This will minimize any annoyance that you may inadvertently inflict.

2. Make sure your victim has a drink in his/her hand. Be prepared to say “the next one’s on me,” whenever you come to an end of the sentence. Do not be alarmed by how quickly the other person is draining the drinks. It only looks like they are doing martini shots.

3. Make sure all the exits out of the room are secured.

4. Leg irons and handcuffs never hurt anyone, either.

5. Do not under any circumstances ask, “want to hear my dream?” Instead, segue into it like this: “I had a dream about you last night, it was great!” Everyone loves to hear about themselves, so you will be able to drone on about how in your dream you looked just like Christy Turlington, but not as flaky and Matt Damon was really in love with you, but you couldn’t commit to him because he was shorter than you. Then, when you’re nearing the end, add “oh, yeah, then you walked by and you looked fantastic. I think you had a tan.”

6. Never say, “Oh, I forgot about this part, let me back up.” That expression can turn a murder into “justifiable homicide”.

7. You know how your English teacher told you that the details make the story? Don’t start listening to her now.

8. You may think that it’s best to tell your dreams to someone who is in the habit of telling you theirs. This is retaliatory dream telling and is a common mistake among novices. If you do that, you are just perpetuating a cycle that has no end. You must eliminate the dream tellers from your life, or engage them in a more professional relationship (see Item 1, above). Do not talk to these people. I repeat, do not. (Also, if you are sitting there minding your own business and someone says, “so, how did you sleep? Have any interesting dreams?” do not fall for it. They don’t give a shit about your dreams and as soon as you pause for air, they’ll jump into with their own snoozer. Ward it off at the head. “Dream? I read that only psychotic animal abusers remember their dreams.” Kills several birds with one stone, if you ask me.)

9. Have band aids on hand in case your victim’s ears start to bleed.

10. Never do “dream sequels”. That’s when you re-target the same victim and say, “remember that dream I told you the other day? Well, I had a follow-up dream last night!” Because just the other night I had a dream that someone started to do that to me, and boy was it annoying. It’s a good thing that I looked just like Uma Thurman in it.

Thank you thank you thank you to all my contributors; Kelcey, Wendi, Margaret, Comedy Goddess, Jessica, Anna, Adlibby, Pearl and Marinka. After acting as bloggy editor all weekend I’m way too exhausted to link you all again…I’m back tomorrow. I’m going to need a rest. Now everyone get out so Husband can make things clean and pretty for my return. Smooches!